I think you stand a better chance of reconciling by having him move out. Your goal should be to make him feel like you are tired of his games, lying, and manipulation and that you have had an awakening that you are going to be just fine without him, not in a passive aggressive way, but in a way that conveys you realize your life is still great and will continue to be with or without him. Act as if.
Thank you for your advice.
I know things will get ugly once I lawyer up... I'm not wanting that.
I will do my best to give him this weekend - it will be the longest we have been apart since this happened. He will either return with renewed efforts to end this all... or may soften toward me with the extra space. I'm a realist and more likely the former. Once he has had more dates, more bonding time.. leaves more of his clothing behind at her house. It will be the former.
I am tired of the lying. I came right out and said I know what is happening and why without the accusing words he is having an affair. He would have just denied.
I think its best I let him go without confrontation this tonight... that will just give him bonding material with his new interest. I will get my emotions in check and do it when he returns.
