^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ what kml said!!!!! I know it is hard, kas. Trust me. I have been there and done that, but at some point, you have to figure out how to let go so that you can work on yourself and be there for your kids. It is not easy or fun or a short process for sure, but once you figure out how to let go, it is like a huge weight is lifted off your shoulders. What you are going through is awful, ugly, painful and it hurts like a son of a gun and no one expects you to just brush it off, but try to find peace and start letting go and things will look a lot different and a lot better. Hang in there! Continued prayers and positive thoughts are coming your way.
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids