Ok U if I am reading this correctly you are ready to file. You are done trying to placate your W and are no longer going to validate her $hitty behavior. If this is correct I am in full agreement with you. I’m not going to lie, I do not like your W. She’s not even a WW and I despise her for trying to portray you as abusive. To me that is the lowest of the low in WW land. She’s manipulated you since day one to try to get everything she wants and her way. It doesn’t work that way.
Everyone has to come to terms with things on their own timeline and it sounds like you are finally ready.