Hitting My Stride IIII

[DonH]

That’s the bs I fuching hate and would be tempted to go over there and drag his a$$ outside and set things straight.

If I heard something like that from my sons I'd be livid (as in really freakin' p*ssed off). I wouldn't be talking to my XW, I'd be talking to the BF and he'd d@mn well understand the consequences if it ever happened again. But, that just me.

You guys have to be kidding. Over saying “you should know that” which, I’m not sure the age but I think by 3rd grade I knew all my times tables. But seriously you want to go to war over “you should know that” hell I’d say that to a friends child I was interacting with. Or are we seriously trying to build another generation of snowflakes? Now if he berated her, told her she was stupid or something, I’m with you but this was not the case. You just don’t want ANY guy interacting with your children. Well news flash it’s going to happen and your proposed reactions will just make it worse.

I wonder what my step kids bio dad thinks of me. He may have thought he was rid of me 12 years ago and here I am still mentoring “his” kids. We have a great R. My stepdaughter has told many people over the years and now her husband reinforces how important I was in her life growing up - and still am. And yep, I’ll bet I said to her somewhere along the way, “you should know that” and I’ll bet at the time she might not have liked it. Now she thanks me.

I’m not saying it’s fun or easy or pleasant, but I’m betting this man has a very active role in her kids lives. After two years how could he not? She may even confide things in him. I’m sure she doesn’t want to tell you that, and it looks like for good reason. And look at your role lately with doctors child. Yep, this guy likeky has the same type of interaction with your girls. Right? Or is this the first thoughts of that?

I know it’s hard and if this is just the start of you guys coming to grips with this I’m going to go easy as I know it’s hard to think about and embrace. But guys are going to take if nothing else mentoring roles with your kids after a year or more bring in their lives. BS you are doing the same. Be thankful he cares enough to want to be involved with her. It sux but it’s very much part of D. Perhaps a new part you will have to come to grips with.