Sorry just read it again and it sounds like you kind of sort of may have been BD'd? If so then I would still suggest reading 5LL but don't go overboard on implementing all the techniques. Try to focus on techniques in the book that aren't pursuit-heavy. For example, "Words of Affirmation" could be flirty/ sexual (wow you look so sexy in that suit) or they could be supportive (you are such a great father figure, I think it's fantastic that you are always there to support the kids). After BD you would focus on things like the latter and not the former.
