Hi, I'm new to the forum. Basics: married 10 years, together for 15. Two teen kids. Separated and cohabitating--separate bedrooms.
My spouse said he was done about 8 weeks ago. He said that he didn't feel like a part of the family, that we were incompatible, etc. No big no-nos. From my perspective, our marriage was okay, but we have a lot of issues outside of our relationship. One kid is special needs, and he just kind of broke after the diagnosis. He went into autopilot. I compensated and grew resentful. Before that, I think we just suffered from poor relationship skills. I am a fixer. He's a stuffer. Our relationship was okay but not great overall. Functional but not fulfilling.
I spiraled a bit for a few weeks then obsessively began reading and listening to anything self help related. I was just looking for relief from the pain. Eventually I came across a video that discussed The Divorce Remedy, and I decided to give it a shot. Less than two weeks, my husband asked what had happened. Why was I so happy? What changed? Now he is starting conversations with me. He's enjoying my company again, which is a vast improvement from not being able to be in the same room. We were literally avoiding each other except for our weekly family dinner. We decided right away that we're still family and need to put the kids first, which for ours means consistency and time together.
So, I'm here to share, get encouragement. I know this is a longer recovery than I want, but I want to get it right. I can't put my kids through this again.
