Core, take a deep breath. When we have an especially arduous R talk, or find a file of W's thoughts, or find out there is an OM, sometimes we get what we like to refer to as the "illusion of action". Where something must be done.

Here is the thing.....nothing has changed. That file was written who knows how long ago, and your finding it doesn't change anything. Today is no different than yesterday, you just know about the file now. I'd like to point out a couple of things because you seem to think you are detached now, don't care one way or the other, and ready to move on. But are you?

1) Why did you start a R talk? Think about it. If you are detached, really done, don't care, and ready to move on, why would you start an R talk? Most people don't have R talks unless they still care to some level.

2) Why did you read the file? Once you knew what it was? If you really are done, ready to move on, and don't care, why would you have read the entire thing. Great, it didn't affect you the way it would have before, but it still affected you. Why? You need to get to that underlying answer.

3) Most of us that were in limbo think that limbo is the worst. Limbo is the gift of time. Many LBSs would kill for a 3 month, 6 month, 12 month or longer limbo period. Those are LBSs that get left right out of the gate. The words "I want a D" are still in the air as their WAS is packing and leaving. Point is, don't do something rash over something that doesn't really mean anything.

Now I am proponent of setting a deadline. I notoriously had a deadline, and put it right in my signature. Just make sure the deadline is further out than the time you need to get ready. And then DB your butt off (that means no R talks!) between then and now.

I also highly suggest you stop trying to DB to save your marriage....and DB to save yourself. You can't believe the impact that can have on your WAS.


M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018