I do hope your lent is fulfilling. You are on a good path.
I think I understand what you mean about not wanting your kids to forgive, yet. It stems from how accepting of things, young children are. They mush together acceptance and forgiveness; too immature to realize and separate the two.
I suspect S14 is grown pass that stage, now beginning to discern forgiveness, acceptance, and the tie between them. D10 is probably not there yet, but not for long, she’s a smart gal, and usually girls mature emotionally sooner than boys.
I empathize with the battle you face getting through the business of this situation. Such cruelty and viciousness from a spouse just adds to the tangled mess. Stay strong, progress is being made.
I do agree with you about vaping and the health consequences of it. The problem lay in the minimal regulations regarding e-cigarettes and vaping products. With it not strictly illegal to vape around children, there is little enforceable recourse. Until society, lawmakers, and further studies catch up, educating children is our/their best defence. Need to find solutions within the realm of what one can do, rather than want to do.
Encourage D10, build up her confidence, so she can ask her Dad about not vaping around her. He may just listen to her.
I suspect where you live sun-dogs are exceedingly rare. The last few nights have been so clear here, I’ve been walking and star gazing. Venus is shinning brightly, hanging well above the western horizon, from sunset to 10:00pm. It’s not as rare, yet still spectacular. The brightest diamond in the night sky.
As the twilight fades, more and more points of light peek out. A vast multitude of heavenly bodies, twinkling, shining, reaching their delicate light Earthward.
Perhaps you can find some time and somewhere dark, for you and the kids, to peek back at the splendour.
I’ll be thinking about you.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
