I asked job to delete the previous thread because I thought H may have caught a glance at this website.
He’s been a drinker since I met him. I was young and did not recognize the signs. He operates fine daily but had admitted to me that he’s using alcohol to numb his mind. I think he has a desire to not drink so much, because he used to prioritize his workouts and obviously alcohol interferes with that. So he would make comments currently about “trying to get back to the gym” etc but hasn’t followed through. I think either he is getting older and the alcohol is affecting him more now than before, or that he’s drinking more in the last few years. He refused to get help/does not think he needs help. And I’m not in al-anon.
So yes, drinking is a big catalyst to the end of our M. But bundled with that is his demons that he’s running away from by using alcohol.
Thank you for taking the time to read through my thread!
