Thanks Overrnbw for taking the time to read up on my sitch.
Yes, she absolutely didn't give it a chance. She decided it was over before we both could discuss things properly. I just wish she was not so stubborn and impatient. This is my problem with people who throw a R away so quickly. Do they even value it enough in the first place, if they're happy to simply pull the plug? Is their partner simply expendable and interchangeable?
I am a good person. I was just stumbling along the way frequently, without asking for help. I've learned a lot about myself these last 9 months. I realised I sacrificed too much to make XW happy, at the expense of my happiness, and it made me stressed and depressed in the background. Even if it put me in a difficult position, I would always strive to make her happy, and felt my needs were less important. Classic NGS - I lost my 'personal power'. 6 months of IC worked wonders however, and I realise that my opinion does matter - never thought it did before.
There is a lot of good in my life right now. I have things to achieve, I have my family, I have friends, I have a good job, I have hobbies and interests. I DBed. I will keep DBing.
Me - 36, W - 32 No kids T - 8 yr, M - 3 yr Discovery - 14 May 2019 S - 25 May 2019 & D bomb - 29 July 2019 D & House sale final - Feb 2020