FS, the under-the-breath "shut up" would have made my head explode. I have one hundred percent been there, when H is acting irrationally and can't deal with the fact that he is, he knows it, you know it, and you aren't going to fight back with him and so he has to just let something little like that slip out. Kudos for not saying anything. Just reading it I wanted to grab him and stop him from going up the stairs to NAP in YOUR HOUSE and tell him behavior like that is not acceptable-- I think because even in reading it I was transported back to similar interactions with my H in the past.
Yes, it was probably a big shock to see the house, and he has all these unprocessed feelings around it and the M and what this all means. And yes, he was probably totally exhausted. Yes, yes, yes. Still. Impressed you kept your head.
Also, great job on all that work. We spent all day Sunday doing the same just with the children's stuff and I had so many times when I was about to lose it because the kids were whining about not wanting to give something away they had literally never touched in a year and acting like snotty entitled little brats. I was questioning my parenting, my life choices, why we have so much GD stuff all over. (Luckily, for whatever reason, my H was the mature and composed one through the whole day, kept telling me to sit down and take a break, took the kids out of the house for a couple of hours, was calm and got them to see reason when I was getting all worked up. Not sure how/why that happened but I am grateful.) Anyway, so I 100% feel you on the hard work but also the feeling of accomplishment and peace to get all that junk out of your house.
What's on your plate this week? Time to relax and enjoy having the kids back?
Me (46) H (42) M:14 T:18, D9 & D11 4/19 - 12/19: series of escalating BDs 9/20 - present: R and piecing
