Hi Kit - Regarding a month ago when your H said his needs weren't being met, he already checked out long before he told you that. Even if you played your cards perfectly from that point on, you would still be in the same predicament.
Your H is simply getting all his ducks in row so that the blame for the breakdown of the marriage will be solely on your shoulders. If he can get you to buy into the blame, then it will alleviate his guilt for having an affair. It's all BS.
My ex did the same thing. She gave me a laundry list of all the stuff I did wrong (all of which was fixable), and I still struggle with blaming myself for things. It's only when I get these short bursts of clarity that I can see clearly that my Ex projected onto me her issues and then assigned me as the devil that made her life miserable. I've been NC ever since she left me and I have heard she is really struggling, the difference is now I am no longer available for her to blame.
