Its just it was just at the beginning of this month that he said to me... his needs weren't being met... I should have stopped in my tracks and hugged him and reassured him. One day I did wake him up from sleep and that just so angered him.
You can't know for sure. Long after BD we often discover affairs, plans to exit, etc. began in their hearts if not physically earlier than we realized. While most relationships have a tipping point where they sink, they generally have to be running low for some time before that can happen.
Says my Walkaway Spouse side from 10yrs ago.
It's the past--can't change it.
Originally Posted by KitCat
I'm tired of him acting like he has all the cards.
You don't get to control how he acts. Ready2Change gave a good example of how to manage choices, though, such that you clearly hold and control your own cards.
Originally Posted by KitCat
I can't think of any reason I would want him back.
Then write KitCat's story. Of course there's trauma to work through. Maybe a good goal is for your ex to be 20% of your story and your choices and growth to be 80% of your story.
