innocence shattered, the bomb

[rooskers]

Belle I thought I would let you know that you are not alone. I was the stay at home dad for much of my daughters life and my XW is the only person I have ever been intimate with. We met in college and I had done very little dating before that. Not only was my XW the only person I had ever been intimate with but also the only person I really had ever gone out on dates with. She had also been living a double life for many years of which I new nothing about. From my perspective, after 22 years she just up and left one day. The question is will you survive and the answer is YES!

I am in free fall. This life, our life. It is all I have ever known. I am a stay at home mom and wife. I am very educated but haven't worked in a long time because we have moved for his career and his promotions. I am currently completely financially dependent on him.

The feeling of free fall is a horrible feeling. I wish I could take all your current worries, fears, stresses away but I can't. So many people give the advice to find the single person you once were but in our situation we went from children to being in a relationship and then married. We never really experienced life being single and on our own. The next year or more will require so much growth and discovery of self. Please keep sharing and listen to all the vets here who have been through something similar. This site suppose to help save your marriage but I believe this forum is more about saving yourself.