Hi Belle, well I'm glad to see that you still have a sense of humour amidst all this heartbreak, you're going to need it smile That made me laugh so much about you missing out on feminist theory in favour of a man! I'm in a similar sitch, been married 25 years and H was my only ever real boyfriend, never slept with anyone else and was a SAHM for years. It is VERY scary, the worst single thing I've ever gone through in my life, but 18 months down the track I'm still married and still breathing (don't forget to breathe, it's very important, even better if you can learn different breathing techniques to calm yourself down!) You WILL survive, things WILL get better one way or the other.

Ugh, your H is such a cliche, how pathetic to have sex with someone half your age. Pathetic. You will feel sorry for him at some stage, get the rage out of your system first though, you're entitled to a whole lot of anger smile