Doing nothing is still hard work. I think I am succeeding most of the time, but it takes a conscious effort.
Having said that, I am acknowledging my wife when I see her and I wonder if I should be doing that or not. When my W dropped the kids off to me yesterday, she came into the house, didn't really say hello until I said hello, dropped off their school things etc, gave them hugs then walked out of the door without saying goodbye or anything to me. I said goodbye, and she sort of turned and said goodbye back then got in the car and left (I didn't follow her out the door or anything like that).
To me the 'hello' and 'goodbye' are common courtesies that everyone uses. We were on reasonable (good, even) speaking terms up until late October but now it feels like she is really shutting me out. Yes, it hurts to be ignored but it also feels rude, especially when she purposely excludes me from any group greeting (warm welcome to S15, D13, the dog, then not even a look in my direction, like I'm not there).
What is the right way to view/handle this? Is it reasonable for me to expect a hint of civility? I guess the real path is for me to totally drop it and work on not letting it worry me. I can't make her change her behaviour (and don't want to *make* her do anything). Saying hello etc I guess is pursuing (seeking a response), forces her to do something she doesn't want to do, and doesn't recognise her withdrawal as a sign she wants zero contact.
I also wonder what this behaviour means. Trying to write me out of the picture/speed up forgetting me by just not seeing me? Or my presence causes her too much pain?
