Sorry I don't have time to catch up on everything; just this last thread. My honest view is that the 'limbo' / impasse, whatever we want to call it had to break at some point. One way or another. I think it was time. Life really is too short to stand still for long. You've got too much to give and live for to spend it in stagnation.
I know that this isn't the outcome that you had hoped for. I suppose that this may still not be the final outcome. But, you have to keep moving forward. Grab the situation by the proverbials and make it yours.
One small word of caution. Accept H's procrastination as just that. Don't read into it. Believe me I am (still) married to the king of procrastination who told my L that he didn't want to get divorced. Did that mean he wanted to save the marriage? Nope. I am guessing he didn't want to face his demons and face the financial consequences. Shame / guilt, who knows, but what I know is that it wasn't in my interests.
Thinking of you FS. What you are feeling is normal and natural and stinks. Push through, you / it will be fine.
