I would not have a realtor come out unless you are looking to push this further down the path of divorce.

Your can't stop her from talking to the OM, you just don't engage her. If she wants to cry on your shoulder then you show her you aren't that guy for her anymore. She chose someone else so let her cry to him IMO.

H 34
W 29
BD 3/12/18
Divorce Busted Spring 19

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