I think what your IC says about self harm and your H is spot on, from how you describe him. At least he cant' blame all his self inflicted misery on you any longer. It sounds very much to me like living with an addict - that sense he has to hit his own rock bottom before the pain of what he is doing outweighs his fear of looking at himself and taking responsibility for it. I don't often feel sorry for your H, but I do today.
I hope you had a lovely week all the same. Did you have a nice weekend away? What did you get up to?
