I guess I assumed he’d taken a step forward in that regard. It doesn’t seem that is true and it’s disappointing.
I think change is always possible but it doesn’t come easy. I didn’t change until I hit my own emotional rock bottom. It helps me to think this way - I have empathy for my W because she has not really had to deal with her resentment yet. I was forced to deal with my issues, being in the LBS position.
This is another reason to detach and stop reading into things. We are so often wrong, or projecting what we hope to be true.
Originally Posted by HopeCA
He is the most confusing and frustrating person. I’m continuing my efforts toward detachment for my own sanity because this is just too hard.
This is exactly what detachment is all about.
I get it. Before Xmas my W was calling me delusional and out of control and unsafe with the kids, the next minute she was hugging me and crying about the holidays. I can’t deal with whatever is going on in her brain. I am 100% focused on my future. The constant mixed messages will drive you crazy until you stop tuning into that frequency. Or think, “hmmm curious I wonder why he’s doing that? Meh I think I’ll just go about enjoying my day.”
