Thanks unchien, I appreciate your thoughts. To answer your question, a temporary custody change is one of the options I thought of for what might be in the envelope. I *think* that he was assuming I’d say no to the trip and maybe would have filed it if I had, but I don’t know.
I agree with you about blaming me for his life choices and about his limiting his own personal growth. The latter has always been in an issue in our R, and with all the talk of him taking care of himself and getting therapy, not drinking, exercising etc, I guess I assumed he’d taken a step forward in that regard. It doesn’t seem that is true and it’s disappointing.
This morning he came to pick up D4, and brought me coffee and came in all cheerful, called me by a nickname. When D4 was out of ear shot he apologized for our last conversation, said he doesn’t hate me and that he does still have some anger but he wants us to have a good relationship. I thanked him for that. I was feeling prickly and sensitive and not at my best, so I didn’t say much. When they left he went in for a big hug from me. He is the most confusing and frustrating person. I’m continuing my efforts toward detachment for my own sanity because this is just too hard.
