While going through items to gather and send to mediator, I came across a letter from my wife's birth mother to her. After reading it, I now believe my wife's (she is adopted) discovery of her half-siblings and her rejection by them was a major triggering event for her MLC. The letter wasn't hidden, and I do wonder if I was meant to see it.
The letter, about 30 months old, has some really devastating comments from her birth mother. Examples: "All I ask is that you do not force yourself on them as you did me." "This isn't just about you and your feelings." "I hope you respect their choice not to contact you if that is their choice. Not like your promise to me that you would not contact them." Wow. I can only imagine the pain W felt when reading this.
I did share much of this with my IC, who firmly believes this is the root cause of what we are dealing with. This is solely W's issue to handle, and thus far she has been unable to cope. I continue to move toward D through mediation. This is her journey, and she needs to take it alone.
