In some ways, since he's told me he doesn't love me anymore romantically and wants to S, it's almost like I feel like it can't get any worse and my feelings can't be hurt any more.
If you feel this way then I think you can just keep doing what you're doing. I might just recommend thinking through what happens if you find out more.
On the piano... I don't know if this is the case where you live, but I know in a lot of places people are getting rid of pianos and actually can't sell them so have to pay to haul them off to the dump. Which is then very sad because most people have all sorts of memories with their pianos, etc. Anyway... unless it is a family heirloom or a Steinway or something, your baby won't be ready to play for several more years and a lot can change in that time-- you might move, other pianos might come available... I might recommend just looking on Craigslist or something to get a sense of how easy it might be to get another piano at some point in the future. I just don't know, if I were you, that I'd want something like this to be what pushes your H into the basement, unless that is what you want too. (And also FWIW, we ended up getting our kids a high-end electronic piano. The touch feels exactly like a real piano, it has pedals and everything. It takes up far, far less space AND... the best part... you can control the volume and/or put in headphones! My oldest will sometimes wake up early and practice in the morning with her headphones on. it is the BEST.)
Me (46) H (42) M:14 T:18, D9 & D11 4/19 - 12/19: series of escalating BDs 9/20 - present: R and piecing
