Wow - thank you all for the replies. I am shopping around for a family psychiatrist to help untangle this not I've created. I do take ownership of the situation. Told my W of these plans and she liked it. She told the kids they were to stay with me this weekend too. I need to go behind her statement and reinforce that with the kids - ask them what they need to do or want to do.
I'm going to re-read the past few statements a few times this afternoon too.
A few things: ------------------- * I am starting to notify my wife and kids what plans are at least a day in advance going forward. * Trying to find time on the calendar to go to group therapy is almost impossible with 3 active people's schedules. I am trying - but wow. It is a challenge. * I made an appointment with a new IC for me - one that specializes in abandonment, gaslighiting, infidelity and child alienation issues.
I must maintain compassion and empathy. I must not cave in to hate, and anger and resentment.
I am thinking of not being around when they move out next weekend. I am going back and forth with that decision.
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