I see you wanting to validate, but then you give a huge paragraph of justifications.
Okay, so I understand, is the goal not to justify myself to my wife, or not to justify to anyone at all?
Definitely not to your W. However, justification has a way of seeping into your interactions with your W. If you are justifying things here, then likely you are also justifying things to her. Even if it just in your facial expressions and body language.I saw you wrestling with wanting to validate and wanting to "explain". Just remember, her perception is her reality. Learn to validate. Learn that your explanations don't mean anything, to yourself or to her. Trust me, I had a father with emotional problems. He always felt the need to explain things away, even to himself.
Originally Posted by JoeDredd
Originally Posted by Steve85
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Dr Phil?
Though sayest.
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