"How did you get on with the council? I'd rather pay [higher fee] to have sale proceeds transferred straightaway then we know it's all gone through properly before we give the keys. Is your parents' money in the joint account? Remind me?"
Several things here: - She has misunderstood my text from yesterday about the washing machine. When she asked "How would I go about disposing of it?", I suggested: "I'd call the council and check if they can collect it." She has therefore assumed that *I* will do that, and has expected me to have already contacted them. Shall I just do it? Is it worth arguing about this?
- We can either pay one fee to get the house sale proceeds paid by bank transfer (takes 2-3 days), or by a faster process (same day) which is more than twice the price. I think it's a bit of a waste of money (we're talking £20 extra) but I don't think I will choose to have this battle.
- My parents gave us some money towards a home improvement. They gave it to me about a fortnight before BD. I remember that W definitely mentioned to me afterwards, "I suppose we should give that money back to your parents." I then withdrew it. She then had a massive rant at me, saying how disrespectful I was taking it without talking to her. She denied all knowledge of saying that we should give it back. I transferred it back. It's stayed there ever since. I don't know why she needs reminding. She has access to that account and can check the banking app at any time.
Bit of help please!
Me - 36, W - 32 No kids T - 8 yr, M - 3 yr Discovery - 14 May 2019 S - 25 May 2019 & D bomb - 29 July 2019 D & House sale final - Feb 2020