Wow, firemann, that sounds traumatic! I feel terrible when my son won't speak to me for even half an hour.
Originally Posted by firemann
son, you've stayed under my roof 4 times in the past 6 months. What you are doing is hurting me..
I don't think you want to guilt your children into spending time at your house.
Originally Posted by firemann
I think the 4 of us need to sit down and talk about how we are handling custody.
I don't know if you want your young kids to be and feel responsible for making that decision. It sounds like you know their feelings and what your wife is willing to give. The choice therefore falls to you.This alienation seems deeply problematic. I would strongly consider hiring a child psychologist for advice on what's best for them and how to restore yourself as their dad. It seems like there must be more behind this in their minds than seeing a random car parked in your driveway after your wife moved out, and you not coming home one of the four nights you had custody of them in the last six months. If the house is a big issue to them, it may be worth letting go, because your kids are so much more important to you than a building.
Your daughter's sick. She may not be at her most articulate or kindest just now. She's also a teenager--kinda like an alien! I hope tomorrow is a better day. Sleep helps.
