Hi Cardinal,

I love the weeding meditation. That is amazing. I wonder if I approached weeding (which I hate, have zero patience for) as meditation (which I also have such a difficult time with) I could combine two undesirable but important activities into one. And actually make some progress SOMEWHERE. It sounds like it was exactly what you needed. Plus, you got the weeding done. Yay Cardinal!!

On the sourdough starter-- I just keep mine in my fridge and take it out a day or so before I want to use it. Feed it and it pops right back. No need to keep it on your kitchen counter and feed it every 12 hours. Mine was in the fridge for a year and still came right back once I fed it a couple of times.

Sometimes I feel like the vets tell the brand-new newbies relax! Gift of time! He would have already left if he really wanted to! And then when you do relax and aren't freaking out anymore they say don't get your hopes up and why are you holding on so hard? When he wants to R you will KNOW, otherwise you'll be confused. So back off. Maybe we are told what we need to hear when we need to hear it, and it is all about staying the course and DBing away regardless of what your WS is doing around you.

I think I'll make some sort of yummy dessert tonight-- you've inspired me. (I just ate two more delicious chocolates once I read about your cake in the freezer.)

Hang in there!

M


Me (46) H (42)
M:14 T:18, D9 & D11
4/19 - 12/19: series of escalating BDs
9/20 - present: R and piecing