KML, I do believe you are correct. I saw the kinder, gentler side of her for many years and came to believe that was her true nature. The red flags started a couple of years ago when her tune started to change. And I would even ask her things like, "you used to tell me ABC but now you say XYZ, I'm confused on why you've changed on that" and she would reply "but we had just started dating and I was trying to impress you." So yeah, looking back I see the warning signs were there!
