I think I feel better when I limit my time here. I'm going to do my best to back off until I have an actual question or need help handling H should he decide to flip out.
Do what's best for you. I've taken several breaks from the forums over the years. When I come back I feel like I have better focus.
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Two I filed my taxes married filing separate because it is in my best interest to do so. This is going to cost him a lot of money because he has not paid taxes on the dividends (I normally do this for him) and it's a higher tax bracket. Oh and there are those legal bills he isn't prepared for plus CPA fees since I won't be doing his taxes this year.
It really does sound like he is coasting along with blinders on, utterly oblivious to the fallout of his actions. It sounds like he may get hit with D papers and the tax ramifications around the same time, that will probably be a huge wakeup call. Or kick in the groin! You just have to wonder what he's thinking, but the answer is probably that he isn't thinking AT ALL.
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To be clear I do NOT want a D. I hate this.
I cringe every time someone asks you why you're filing for D, because anyone who has followed your sitch from the beginning should be crystal clear on that. I have followed along and I absolutely agree with you that in your case it was the best course of action. Your H has put the screws to you at every turn and has no intention of supporting you to the extent of the law until forced to do so. You're scraping along financially barely able to pay your bills, you had to do it to get the support you need. Unfortunately your local court system has no sense of urgency, so this had dragged out far longer than it should have. Anyway whenever someone asks then you have to defend yourself all over again, and I know you get tired of it. You might do a synopsis in the first post of each new thread, then when someone makes a comment like that ask them to read it.
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He was my best friend, the love of my life, the person I thought I'd grow old with. We had plans. He was going to retire this month and he'd work less hours, we'd have more time together, etc. We were going to build a house once D14 graduated high school, travel, all of it. Now I'll be working until I'm 75 and living in the ghetto.
D has a major financial impact on most, if not all, of us. My XW and I had a great plan mapped out, we were on track to retire comfortably at 60. Now I'm 58 and retirement is not even on my radar. I will be working until I get forced out of it. We can be bitter or we can accept this is our life now and make the best of it. My brother chose the former, I chose the latter. I am way happier than he is!
