I completely agree with Steve. Flip the script and "act as if" you have come to realize that you are going to be just fine without H. In fact, display that you have had an awakening and realize your life is going to be even better when he's gone.
Kit - I'm not with my ex anymore, but I was able to get her back a few times doing exactly what Steve just suggested. When my ex left me, each time I went complete and total NC. I acted like I realized things were going not just ok, but good. Eventually she would reach out after a few months and cry about how much she missed me.
