The biggest problem is you want him back NOW. In reading through your thread on and off I get the sense that you've got a shot at recon down the road, your H is kind of a typical leave-now-come-back-later MLC type. The real question is do you have the patience to let him go for now and see how things play out later.
NAILED IT!
Patience is a skill I am very much lacking - always have. I am working on it.
But, it is the 100million dollar question. Do I have the patience to let him go for now and see how things play out??? I have this gut reaction that if I don't get this solved or on better terms before he is out the door then recon would be less likely. We would never see each other - no shared children, living and working in different cities. I'm not going to call or text because I need help with X, Y or Z. There would be no contact.
He discussed S versus D yesterday. Said S for a year and then D OR we do D and wait a year to file. He said he will do whatever I want. I said I would like S for year. He heavily sighed like he was annoyed but he asked me what I wanted so I didn't take his bait. He then said if we do that then we have to go over everything again to the D. I said that was okay and I was fine with that. He said he was not - he just wants it all over with now. I said I understood that is what he felt he needed. I just said I need a cooling off period and left it at that.
