Do what is right for you. If you don't want to move out then don't move out then don't. You don't need to accept something just because it is what he wants.
He is trying to find options that work for him. Not you. When my H was in the throes of his craziness (before he MO) he applied for a job overseas. He knew the terms of the contracts being offered would mean at the very least he would be away for three weeks and not back for more than a week but he thought this would be ok for me and the children. Now, my H, if nothing else, loves his children. In my H's thinking, this was the perfect solution - he could run away without running away and no-one would be the wiser. They ARE NOT thinking rationally. Your H has probably thought this through many times and he has (somehow) come to the conclusion that it WILL WORK. He thinks his plan is perfect.
Originally Posted by Oceangrl
He got mad that I didn't think his plan was perfect. and treated me like I was the mean ex wife who wants to take him to the cleaners
Do not get pulled into a conversation where you are having to explain your reasons for not moving out. Like I said, he has thought this through in his mind and it is perfect. He has rationalised away all the holes.
When he brings it up (and yes, wait for him to bring it up) simply say "I understand that you think this is a workable option. It isn't. I am not moving out and I will not discuss it with you any more".
You are not going to change his mind. But that doesn't mean you have to accept what he says.
