So in response to Job's post above... how well did I handle interactions with H?
Yes... he is nice to me I do become closer. I find it comforting and creates positive experience. I guess the positive interactions I thought would be consistency in predicting future behavior of how we treat on another. BUT, I see now I'm doing myself a disservice. That behavior just tells him where I an at. Willing to sit there for whatever spills my direction. I would have been better served to keep my distance and decline?
When he was up and down in and out of the bedroom I should have let him pace or fidget. Acknowledge anything he wanted to say to me... validate his feelings but stop offering phrases as the housing market will pick up.... it's my job to understand the way he feels... its not my job to make him better.
Give less info when leaving... honestly my job part took 10min... I spent the remaining 20min in a McD's parking lot giving myself space.
I should have not asked him if he wanted to get dinner... he wants to mope around the house that's on him.
I can honestly say that when I asked I really didnt care the answer. I was good either way and involved I what I was doing.
Well I did really good when out with my mom, telling him I was busy. Listening to him but not letting him dictate the convo which I ended first. I feel good about that
