4 years pieced and still a work in progress!

[may22]

Hi Blu,

Thanks for sharing your update and where you are. I was wondering as I read your thread-- do you think that some of the things you're noticing now (the irritations) were always there, and you just notice them more because this process has caused you (maybe you both) to be so much more focused on the R, maybe especially sensitive to the potentially negative things? Do you think there might be some level of rosy glasses on the pre-BD days? I know I fall prey to that.

I have a suggestion for you (to take or leave, and maybe you've done it already)-- I've read in a number of places the value of doing something new together, something where you take a risk, where you feel the adrenaline and endorphins and share that experience together. I wonder if getting out of your regular groove and doing something crazy and silly and physical on your next date could be healing for you and help to rebuild that connection. Like roller coasters, amusement parks, learning a new language, scuba diving, ropes course... I don't know. Just something that gets you both out of your comfort zone.

God, I need to spend more time reading a good book and less time reading here! Maybe that will be my next GAL move.

Thinking of you as always.