Changed my mind I think he'd have to liquidate most of the trust to pay me off but then he'd keep his pension. He could make me go away and he'd still have twice as much money as me. He's not good with money so despite it being in his best interest to do this he won't. Men almost always have more money after the D and my H is no exception. If he invested well he could save a TON before he died to leave to the kids which is his goal but nope. He will take the pricier more painful option.
