Appreciate the comments above. What she basically said is she's fed up of not making a decision in or out, ie not being able to make the jump and try and get the M back. She was intending to move back at start of the year until I found out about the A which changed everything but she’s been talking about moving back ever since although timelines have been pushed back several times. She’s said repeatedly she doesn’t want to move back in and then move out again, if she is coming back she’s coming back for good and she wants to make it work.
I’m being very careful and sceptical of everything. I don’t want to get carried away only for it to not work out or be taken for a ride. Separate living is a bridge I only want to cross once. I’ve told her already that unless she is ready to commit totally which includes full transparency of everything, no contact with OM she won’t be ready so I expect her to be transparent with everything where required if she moves back at the weekend. I’ll also tell her there will be no second chances once she’s moved back in. She is away with 'old friends' just tonight. I did wonder why and who - farewell to OM? Or getaway to gather thoughts before restarting? W is emotional a lot of the time and I wonder whether there is a depression/mental health issue at times as she doesn't appear very motivated to do things she used to which also makes me wonder whether she can be cake eating or not. She appears anxious and quite broken up too at times. There was a period of time when she seemed emotionally void not too long ago so I do wonder if she's been grieving OM and perhaps thinking that it was a mistake because it's left her nowhere. (or any number of reasons)
W is off work this week, but goes back to work next week. I know I'll have to be very careful there isn't a second life going on (and won't stand for late nights etc not knowing where she is) but I don't/won't stand for a M where I'm checking up on her all the time. We're transparent and I can be sceptical and not naive but I'm not playing detective all the time. I'll know by her actions.
