Just a follow up. Often times I feel like I don't have much to post since our situation seems stagnant...H is sleeping in the study but other than that we get along great and he seems to keep up appearances of being happily married to me to people. Haven't had a R talk in months.
We did get each other small gifts for Valentines Day (I found out he was ordering me something so I went ahead and got him a gift as well) Not sure if this was a good move or not but I have trouble being rude. I kept it simple, no card as we would usually do. He asked what I wanted to do for VDay the day of and I just played it off as I didn't care and we just ate take out at home.
We are considering bringing in some new hand me down furniture into the house. The only spot for it is in the study where he's sleeping. It won't fit in the room and still allow him to open the pull out couch where he sleeps. Today he was texting me about moving his stuff down into the basement instead and even buying himself a bed to move down there. He's made alot of comments about moving out/keeping his things separate. At this point, it just annoys me. I am tempted to say, "So when are you going to move out?" (and stop hogging an extra room in the house) but I feel like that would be pressure. I'm acting nonchalant and accepting of him moving his stuff around in the house. When he first told me he wanted to move out, he said he was planning on getting an apartment but would still pay the mortgage as is our current arrangement. He isn't in the financial situation to afford an apartment and our mortgage, so I don't put much weight into the fact that he's still in the house.
