First of all... I just want to say how awful it is that you are going through this when you have a tiny baby. I can't imagine. How old is your baby again? And you're back at work?
First of all, you need to congratulate yourself for being such an amazing, bad-a$$ mom every single night before you go to sleep.
Thank you, May! You posted on my last thread as well and I always appreciate your feedback and advice! I've been following your story as well when I log in and I admire your DB approach with your H. She is 6 months old now and I'm back at work.
Originally Posted by may22
Think about what YOU want to do. What can you imagine doing-- for you-- that makes you happy? A long nap on a weekend day? Pedicure? Reading a new novel? I think self-care is really, really important for everyone, but for a combination new mom and a LBS, you need to double down on taking care of yourself and feeding your own needs and soul. Take the time to be there for yourself first and foremost.
After that, *then* I think you can worry about DBing in terms of thinking about how your GALing may or not affect him. I sincerely believe that GALing is for you, not for him-- to the extent that it does catch his interest, great, but that isn't why you're doing it and I think you want to have that authentic lens on it-- you are doing this for YOU. (Because you deserve it!)
That's a good point. I need to keep in mind that GAL is what's best for me when it all boils down to it. I get so caught up in the idea of using tactics to try to catch is attention when I just need to focus on bettering myself for whatever happens in the end. I'm working on setting up social get togethers with more friends, just not always easy to do when they want to bring their husbands and I don't! I have confided in a few close friends what's going on with my H, but I feel uncomfortable when couple friends suggest doing something all together becuase from the outside, things look normal and we appear to be a happily married couple with a beautiful little baby!
I do hate leaving the baby to go out but if I can time it for after her beditme so H is just sitting at home alone with her asleep, even better!
