I’d like to add..... do you feel 50/50 is truly what’s best for your kids? No for your W, not for you, but your kids????
Because if you do, then you don’t quit.
I’ll be honest, my ex and split when my daughter was 6 months old. I did not feel 50/50 was best. And I told him if he was going to ditch his family for a woman like that and give up time with his newborn daughter to be this woman, well, he isn’t getting 50/50. He didn’t want it and he didn’t fight me. Time went by...... I did think more time with her dad would have been good for her when she got older. But he actually took a day away from himself when I got a new job. Then I actually had to ask him to pick up 2 more nights a month ( Sunday’s on his weekend) because my daughter didn’t understand why she didn’t get more time with her dad. I didn’t want to give it up, but it was best for HER.
There are some generally uninvolved fathers who come to this board all of a sudden wanting 50/50. Sometimes because they legit realized what was important, other times for selfish reasons. I always think the best route is the one that is truly beat for the kids.
Sometimes divorce is necessary to protect your finances and your custody and it’s completely reasonable .
The most important beings in this world are your children, hands down.
