Hugs, FS. I know how hard it is when your H takes the kids away. Not only are you deprived of your kids, but also of family holidays. It really slams home how broken the M is and how truly we are left behind. I'm glad you're having a good clear out, I hope you find it therapeutic. It'll make moving so much easier. Well done on the mediation thing, you're moving closer to ending limbo. I've kind of decided to stay put in my home for a few more years, because our house is modest and downsizing makes no financial sense, because it's the kids' home and they have suffered enough loss, and because it suits us practically whilst the kids are finishing their education. I do sometimes want a fresh start though, and you will get that! In the meantime I'm making the house more my own, next stop I'm doing up the garden so I'm getting quotes for that to entertain friends in the summer smile Like your H, my H hates getting rid of things (too much loss in his teen years, I think), but this stuff is no longer up to them! Good for you for taking control of the Stuff smile