OK yes I needed confirmation that what I have been doing was right.
I know where I went wrong, so if she does ever bring up an R talk I know what to say and how to react.
W will be at the house today til Friday clearing her stuff out. When I go there for the last time on Sunday, all her stuff should be gone. She still hasn't replied to my email earlier this week about other items where it's unclear who'll take them.
I am feeling a strange mixture of emotions lately. Sadness and loss - it's more obvious now. Also frustration at how far things have gone. Also relief - that I'm not being kept hanging around; I am upset that W basically kept me hanging for over a month last year, giving me extreme ups and downs almost every hour. Also happiness - at my own improvements, my increase in confidence, and the fact that I feel a bit closer to my family now. It's all mixed together.
DBing still in force. I won't stop as I'm sure I can reap more rewards from these newly improved and changed behaivours. The lighthouse is in very good order.
Me - 36, W - 32 No kids T - 8 yr, M - 3 yr Discovery - 14 May 2019 S - 25 May 2019 & D bomb - 29 July 2019 D & House sale final - Feb 2020