wooba, wow thanks for reading my entire thread! All those things you mentioned are in my mind. The change was going back and seeing her anguish and suffering. I was away, and positive things were happening in my life finally, but returning and seeing their pain saddens you. Its like seeing a drug addict throw their life away I guess. Seeing her big heart and her hopeful - almost teary eyes, that notion that things will turn up for her, blind to the fact that she is constantly engineering her downfall. As the script goes in this forum, she has burned bridges with friends and relatives and is truly alone. She didnt look healthy, complexion-wise, and I could see she was happy with the joy I brought in their lives for a few days. She actually said "If you had found a job here earlier, maybe we wouldnt have divorced". Well tutored here I dont fall for her comments, and simply acknowledge.
AS and Steve thanks for your advice. You have always been there, this entire journey.
And I do know this takes time. Time for me.
B.D in December 2018 Physical Affairs discovered in April 2019 Divorced May 2019 H (me) 49 W (her) 29