Today is such a hard day

[oceangrl]

[quote=Steve85][quote=oceangrl]

So I can follow your advice perfectly every other week when he is out of town (for work). But the week he is in town, he still sleeps in our bed and everything. So I am not clear how to approach this.

I was never S. Yet I implemented those rules even in person. I was there. I was present. I was upbeat. I always had a song or a whistle on my lip. When she asked me something I answered cheerfully. I didn't initiate conversation. When she did I listened and validated.

The idea here ocean is that he is like a cat. You know how cats are, right? They want to approach you...on their terms. Our cat can be walking towards me. Obviously wanting to jump up and lay on the recliner with me. But if I make a motion towards here, bend down and put my arms out, reach for her, etc....she will run the other direction. But if I just keep doing what I am doing. Watching TV, reading on my phone, etc. She will slowly make her way to me and jump up onto my lap when she is ready.

Let him approach and jump in your lap. And even then, play it cool.............

Okay, thank you, this makes it way more clear for me. I can do this.

My only other question is, as far as his desires for D, he wants me to think of a plan/research child time-sharing etc. Should I avoid this?