Don't worry, I looked back on your Newcomers thread, comments were supportive.
You're right to look after your financial interests. Divorcing and securing your financial well-being doesn't prevent him from reconciling in the future of that is really in the cards - people can and do get remarried sometimes. But it's important to protect yourself financially. It's good that he just got a promotion too!
I know all this feels terrible and not like an opportunity, but believe it or not, it is. It's an opportunity to get back in touch with your true self, not the self that has been pretzeling herself to try to please her H. It's a chance to try new things that he may have been holding you back from. (I learned to play the drums in a punk rock band when my H left!). It's a chance to chart your own course in life. It's a chance to do the things that he may have ridiculed or poo-pooed or just didn't want to spend time doing with you.
Start thinking about ways on which your future could be brighter. Start broadening your interests and your friendships. You will be okay. This is an opportunity to become a new and improved version of you. Living well is the best revenge!
