And now … laughs, sweetness. Wait, is that our photo on the wall? This is all strange.
Yeah that's what happens when you remove all pressure. Doesn't mean she wants to recon (yet), but she's finally starting to remember that things weren't all bad. Eventually she'll remember that things were pretty good.
Truth!
gzabetas, listen to AS. Now is not the time to pursue or pressure. Now is the time to even back off more. When she wants to recon you won't have to guess, she will make it abundantly clear. But the part I love that AS says is "Eventually she'll remember that things were pretty good."
This is exactly what happened in my sitch. On BD my W wasn't happy a day of our almost 19 years together. Obviously this wasn't true but that is what she had convinced herself of. As I GAL, 180'd, detached, that memory started to change to remembering that things weren't all bad. And eventually she got to the point where she remembered that things were pretty good. Now if you asked her, she'd say that other than some rough spots, we have had a pretty good marriage of almost 21 years. Funny how that works, eh?
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
