[SteveLW]

I am an advocate of doing what works. If all of this works, great. The proof will be in the pudding come Monday, with mediation. You'll find out quickly how serious she is with moving forward with D.

My read: she sees you as a friend. And would like to keep you that way. Personally in my sitch I didn't want to settle for friendship with my W. I have lots of friends, I don't want to be married to any of them. So congrats, you guys are friends. More than likely she is hoping for this (friendship) to make the path forward smoother.

What I see Scott is a lot of pursuit and excuses to do so. AS said it best: "Pursuit never, ever works with a WAS my man." Until I hear "she cancelled mediation and wants to work on the marriage", I see all of this a manipulation on her part.

The mistake you are making is what a lot of LBS make. If she is nice "oh she likes me! We are making progress." If she isn't "Oh no, its the end of the world! Nothing is good!" You are uneven based on her words and actions. IE attachment.

Keep us updated.