He has a problem in his marriage ....<<<deathly silence>>>... there is nothing that can fix it except burying head in sand and walking away. And maybe he’s right, maybe nothing can fix his marriage, just like nothing may fix his sports injury...but the contrast in the approach is remarkable. To me it’s like saying I have an injury, the only thing I can do is amputate my limb.
Ugh. My H has been the same way. Growth mindset in every space of his life except for how he feels about me. And also his feelings are unchangeable and the most important thing in the world in this one area, whereas everywhere else "emotions cloud judgment." In fact he told ME to try not to let my emotions cloud my judgment re our R. Bahahahaha. All you can do is laugh.
Your H just sounds so confused and I do think you need to do everything you can to remove yourself from getting dragged around in his circus. If that means planning your life w/o him, then that is what you should do. Hang in there.
Originally Posted by Pommy99
Instead I said, that’s brilliant, maybe he has some furniture that you can buy off him!!
LOL perfect!!
Me (46) H (42) M:14 T:18, D9 & D11 4/19 - 12/19: series of escalating BDs 9/20 - present: R and piecing
