I just read through all the posts in this thread, I am very sorry that you went through all that....esp now you’re so far away from you son. I commend you for staying cordial with your ex-wife for you son’s sake.
You don’t have to forget what she did to you, but have you forgiven her? To forgive her is to release yourself from all the anger and pain that come with the memory.....which I still sense from your words.
She might be regretting her past behavior but it does not mean she wants to reconcile. Don’t burden yourself with the thought. It sounds like you are questioning whether you’d want to R. But I think you need to heal first....
Does your pain come from being so far away from your son? - if this is not some easy to change because of work, let it go for now. Make the most out of your time together.
Does your pain come from seeing your ex and thinking she’s having regrets? - it doesn’t matter what she’s thinking. If she’s doing well, you should be happy that your son is being taken care of by someone who’s mind is in a good place.
Does your pain come from the past destruction? - you need to heal from that first.
You can both still be great parents to your child. Your son is still young, naturally he enjoys having both mommy and daddy together with him. Enjoy the moments when you guys are spending pleasant time together. Married or not, it will sure be great memories not because of your ex-wife but because your son was part of it.
