Originally Posted by oceangirl
And these are the moments when we look like this happy family and I am there in the middle of it knowing he wants to divorce me. He says he likes me, he's attracted to me physically, there is nothing about me that bugs him. There are many things he likes about me. But he doesn't feel a connection to me in a loving way. And he doesn't want to be intimate with me because of that. He wants out.

I am sorry to say that I could’ve written this myself, about my sitch. Happy families? H announced 2 hrs ago that he really is leaving, and viewing a rental tomorrow, but still wants to hang out with us on the trips out we have planned this week (school hols). I said no and he can’t understand why. H tells me I’m very attractive, he complements me on my figure, loves choosing clothes for me, but it’s not *that* kind of attraction. He loves my company, he loves me as a person, apparently in terms of being a wife, I’ve set the bar really high. But he doesn’t see me as his lover. Simple as that. I completely feel the hurt you are feeling. It sometimes doesn’t make sense. What is it they are looking for?


M:49 H:49
T:20 M:18
D:16 D:14

EA: Feb 2019-May 2020
Separated: Mar-early Aug 2020
H asked to reconcile: Jun 2020
EA relapse: Oct/Nov 2020
Recon #2: since Nov 2020